Discomfort Means Your Life Is Demanding a New You
Written by Daniel Robertson
Every time you are uncomfortable, it is because your life is demanding that a new version of you start showing up.
There are two types of discomfort. There is the discomfort we feel when we’re in new and challenging situations, and then there is the discomfort we feel when we are stuck in old ones.
The difference is unmistakable.
The type of discomfort that begets change is one you are familiar with. It’s the feeling that arises when your jealousy, your self-doubt, your resistance, your procrastination, your indifference, your anger or your dread all start to hit a fever pitch.
When you sit down to begin your work and you feel dread, your life is demanding that a new version of you show up, one who is no longer controlled by hesitation, who can work with ease even if they don’t “feel like it” at the onset.
When you see a friend thriving in life and begin to mask your jealousy with judgment and doubt, your life is demanding that a new version of you show up, one who is self-assured, and can therefore effortlessly support those around them.
When you’re not taking care of yourself in fundamental ways, your life is demanding that a new version of you show up, one who is more embodied and able to interpret their essential needs, such as staying hydrated or sleeping enough.
When you cannot tolerate the sight of yourself and dislike everything in your closet, your life is demanding that a new version of you show up, one who is clear on their personal style and confident in who they are regardless of how they may momentarily appear.
We often think that discomfort is our enemy when, in fact, it is our greatest ally. It is something deep within us telling us that we are meant for more, deserving of more, and capable of more.
Whenever we stop honoring our inner guidance system, discomfort comes in to remind us that we are off-track. In some cases, when we’re so unconscious of what’s really happening within us, discomfort can feel like a rude awakening. In reality, it is nothing more than the natural progression of all the signs and symptoms we ignored.
We are forced to recognize and then reconcile the parts of us that are underdeveloped, perhaps the very ones that had been holding us back all along.
In psychology, this process is called positive disintegration
Positive disintegration is the reason why some people will go through a life-altering crisis or tragedy and come out on the other side stronger and more at peace with life than ever before. It’s the reason why so many people attribute their greatest personal growth to a catalyst that was a profoundly negative experience, such as a loss or a breakup.
What happens in positive disintegration is that we are essentially forced to release and reform our self-concept. Our existing selves do not have the coping mechanisms to respond to the stress in our lives, and thus, a process of shedding begins. We are forced to recognize and then reconcile the parts of us that are underdeveloped, perhaps the very ones that had been holding us back all along.
The word “disintegration” is used because there is a sort of death and rebirth process that happens. Before the new self is recognized, we must come to terms with the fact that our old selves can no longer carry us forward, they are not equipped to handle what life has given us next.
That’s where the discomfort comes in.
However, there doesn’t always need to be some massive life event that triggers this process. In fact, though the psychological term specifically refers to that, this inner growth is happening constantly, it’s just that we often aren’t paying close enough attention. Problems that go ignored become crises, and we often don’t recognize what’s happening until we’re left with a massive wake-up call.
However, if we become attuned to these micro-discomforts throughout our day-to-day lives, we can become acquainted with the ways in which life is slating us to grow and develop before things turn into a bigger mess than they have to.
If we can begin to recognize where we are consistently uncomfortable — and particularly where that discomfort is worsening—we can also see where we need to adapt and change. This isn’t because life is unfair and wants to put us in purgatory, but because there is an instinct deep within us telling us broader horizons are imminent—if only we rise to meet them.

Daniel "Always Wins" Robertson

Daniel helps people implement the missing keys to master their mind and make internal shifts to their identities so they can actually get what you want in their life.  He is an expert at helping people get to the next level in their life.
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